Blame it on The Alcohol

In a country like Colombia we see every day on the news how terrifying violent acts happen all around the place. We live in a society where we learn to be careful and to protect our selves from robbers, rapists, kidnapers and every single stranger on the street. Where in the world would an average school kid have to take their bodyguard even to the bathroom? It’s insane.

In the past week there has been a dilemma about what happened in Andres Carne de Res two weekends ago. Being aware that Andres is one of the most popular restaurants in town and that it’s Halloween parties are always recognized around the country, it was more than obvious that a scandal would be made about the incident happened on the first of November. Early this week Andres Jaramillo the owner of the place came on radio saying that in part this was the girl’s fault because she was wearing a mini skirt. What in the world was he thinking? How can some one come out on public media and insinuate that a girl disserves to be raped because she is wearing a skirt. Even if she was running naked, does that mean she has to get raped?

Don’t Shift the Focus From Men by Mychal Denzel Smith talks about how society always tries to blame rapes on other factors like alcohol, clothing, environments and even the victim.  For me a rapist is a rapist no matter what his excuse was.  On the article we see binge drinking as an example, Denzel says, “Drinking does not cause rape, and once you begin focusing on the actions and behavior of the victimized you ignore the role of perpetrator.”

 Since I was very little I remember my mother telling me that no one except the doctor could see my body, but not even once did I hear her telling my brother that making girls do things against there will was wrong. Why do they create preventive methods instead of educating society not to do things? It’s like teaching you who to fall instead of telling you the floor is slippery. Therefore the way of stopping this horrible act is not teaching women how to be careful not to get raped but instead teaching men not to rape.